also update AuthFallback database
* re-write fallback auth to use alias or ssbid
* replace Create() with SetPassword() which does an upsert
* Add reset tokens to sqlite
* add test for SetPassword with reset token
* create consolidated schema with new members table
* update interfaces
* remove allow_list and replace it with members
* update roomdb types
* rename User to Member
* add role enums
* update insert-user
decentral1se
Henry